In today’s world, at least the one around me, identity is a skewed version of how you spend your time. The worst part to me when the question comes out “what do you do for a living” is that that person’s picture of your identity comes from their life experience of whatever title you just shared.
For many years of my life I was very frustrated with the… your JUST (fill in the blank). My identity is much more than what “hats” I wear. 
Stay at home mom, career mom, wife, teacher, maid, nanny… Hats. People are unique and one of a kind. You may find someone that is a lot like you or me but no one, I mean NO ONE is exactly alike. I think that society has lost the importance and power of this aspect of your you-ness. The value and worth of yours (or mine) identity is pivotal in how you do this thing called life. You impact every person you come in contact with and those you spend a lot of time with. You will never fully grasp your impact. Your hat is not what makes that impact, your you-ness is.
As a person I am really moved by quotes, especially ones that have become real in my life. I drive my kids crazy with quotes: “life is a journey, not a destination.”, “fake it until you make it”, “failure is when you don’t get up and try again” …to name a few. I love quotes because they are short and have a big punch about life stuff. Everyone has heard the quote that “children do what they see not what you say”. If we are going to build that foundation of identity in our children don’t we first need to know who we are? Who are you? Who are you to God? How does He see you?
I can now confidently say I know exactly who I am. I can express that through those hats I wear because in my heart of hearts I know I am the only me. Even if we have all of the exact same hats we still wear them a little different and most likely they are decorated a tad differently also.
If you are where I was years ago feeling mediocre, replaceable and JUST_________ (you can fill in the blank here), take time to seek God’s Word of who He made you to be, pray a LOT, and always keep at the front that wonderful quote from my youth “God didn’t make no junk”.
Our kids need to know who they are and we are the ones to show them. You need to know you so you can show them what the Father sees in them. Don’t worry if you are stuck in the place of needing to find you AND show them who they are, that is okay. Honesty and humility goes a LONG way you can walk that journey together.
Just remember you are not alone God gave us one another to encourage, support, and equip.